The trip I just arrived home from still has me spinning with joy. But it’s not the fluttering, jittery joy. It’s a deeply peaceful one. A joy that feels like it’s anchoring me to the ground, allowing me to feel my toes in the sand and wrap my arms around my boys. We’re not lost. […]
Leaving my Marriage Secretly
I’ll be honest, posting this video felt scary. It’s actually the first video I ever made, but I’ve been sitting on it for almost a year, trying to work up the courage to hit “post.” This is the first time I’ve really told my story, the secrets I kept while planning to leave my emotionally […]
Finding Peace after Leaving an Unhealthy Relationship
When I left my emotionally and verbally abusive marriage, I thought I would immediately be “healed.” But I quickly learned that finding peace after leaving an emotionally abusive or verbally abusive relationship can be a longer journey than you might think. That peace can also feel really new to our bodies. Check out the video […]
Advice for Leaving a Difficult Situation
My mom is my rock. And one day while I was still in my unhealthy marriage, I was complaining to her about the relationship. I was so frustrated, burnt out, and I had no idea what to do next. Over and over again I would call her crying, sad about something else that happened in […]
The Cycle of Abuse
What is the cycle of abuse? The Cycle of Abuse is a helpful tool to identify abuse and when it might happen. There are 4 stages to the cycle of abuse that are pretty easily identified in any abusive relationship, whether the abuser is a romantic partner, a friend, a family member, or a coworker. […]
Why You Need to Document (it’s not why you think)
Please do this 1 small thing Before you go any further, I have a small request for you. I do it from the deepest, kindest, most urgent parts of my soul. If you’ve read my blogs or scrolled through my reels and they’ve resonated with you…If someone sends you this because they think of you […]
Boundaries & Co-Parenting
I’ve spent a lot of time figuring out what my boundaries are with my ex. I have two young children who spend half their time with me and half their time with a father that holds many values and beliefs that go against every fiber of who I am as a parent. And yet…I need […]
For loved ones: How to help a friend get out
I’ve had multiple women reach out lately on Instagram asking for tips to help someone they love who is stuck in an unhealthy relationship. First of all, I’m so grateful for them. And second, I know how important these friendships are. When my relationship hit its peak of chaos, before I had decided to leave, […]
My Last Relationship
Life was tampered down when I was with my ex-husband. From the food I ate, the drinks I chose, the movies I watched, the leaps of faith I took, the exercise routines I chose, the people I spent time with…. So much of what I wanted deep down was either criticized or not allowed. And […]
The Daunting Obstacles
Here are the main fears I’ve heard from people who are considering leaving their marriage: How do I possibly spend time away from my children? Where will I live? How will I afford everything? How can I be alone/will I find someone else? Fears like this weigh down on you like heavy mountains. And that’s […]